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Designer Wants To Bring Intimacy To Grieving With a Sex Toy That Holds Cremated Remains [This is True]

April 28, 2015

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Designer Wants To Bring Intimacy To Grieving With a Sex Toy That Holds Cremated Remains [This is True]

How do you want to be remembered when you die?

And what memorial would you choose?

How about having your ashes used in a sex toy, so your partner can remember your more intimate moments together?

Probably not the most obvious answer, but designer Mark Sturkenboom hopes it will catch on (we kid you not).


He’s created a memory box, that includes – more conventionally – a necklace and an amplifier for playing music that reminds you of the deceased.

There’s also a scent diffuser and a gold-plated urn.

But, let’s be honest, it’s the dildo, containing the ashes of the owner’s dearly departed, that really grabs the attention.

Explaining his bizarre invention, Mr Sturkenboom said: ‘After a passing, the missing of intimacy with that person is only one aspect of the pain and grief.

‘This forms the base for 21 Grams. The urn offers the possibility to conserve 21 grams of ashes of the deceased and displays an immortal desire.’

He continued: ‘I sometimes help an elderly lady with her groceries and she has an urn standing near the window with the remains of her husband.

‘She always speaks with so much love about him but the jar he was in didn’t reflect that at all.

‘In that same period I read an article about widows, taboos and sex and intimacy and then I thought to myself “can I combine these themes and make an object that is about love and missing and intimacy?”‘

The box, called 21 Grams – said to be the weight of the human soul – was his answer.

[H/T: Metro.Co.Uk]