Originally Posted on Opposing Views
“Dancing With The Stars” alumnus Julianne Hough sparked controversy for what many believe was an inappropriate Instagram photo.
Hough posted a photo on Instagram of her brother, Derek Hough, with his back turned, standing at their grandfather’s open casket funeral. The casket was covered in an American flag.
The photo received more than 67,000 likes, though most of the 1,019 comments were negative. Many commenters criticized Hough for using “poor judgement” in posting a photo they felt was “morbid,” Yahoo Celebrity reported.
“Why would you post such a personal family moment on social media,” Instagram user geriferrara wrote. “Poor choice.”
“What’s wrong with you @juleshough This is morbid. Why you ever think this is proper?” another user asked.
“Why do we have to post everything on social media?? When I’m at a funeral of someone I love I’m too overcome with Grief to do something like this just so others can see it??” user cynthiaboyd92 added.
Hough’s grandfather was Idaho radio host Robert Virgil Hough. Though Hough had made several tributes to her grandfather on social media, many felt the casket photo was over the line.
Lifestyles and etiquette expert Elaine Swann said she believes the photo wasn’t necessarily too far for the entertainer.
“Social media has got us in an oversharing stage. It really does,” Swann told Yahoo Celebrity. “In my opinion, when we post, we really have to be concerned about those who are going to view it and how they might feel about what we have posted.”
“Etiquette is about putting people at ease,” she added.
“You should not post things that are going to make people uncomfortable. Not only intimate parts of your life but areas such as this — death. You don’t know what kinds of memories a post like this could trigger for someone else. It could be upsetting.”
“Etiquette is about putting people at ease,” she added. Excuse me, but exactly when did everyone else’s comfort come before mine? I can think countless people who would appreciate such a photo. If it made her feel better and/or a nice tribute to her Grandfather, that is her right. If you don’t want to see it, that’s why there is a delete button – use it. Opinions are like **** that doesn’t mean it is your obligation to point out the error of her ways.
Etiquette isn’t about setting the family
at ease its just a suggestion of the proper way to conduct yourself.
The photo here is poignant it shows a grieving grandson paying his final
respects to his grandfather. To many times people want to project their
own values and beliefs on to other peoples grief and say this is set in
stone on how your supposed to do things. Well times change
and people handle their grief differently than others. Remember Its not
your grief its theirs don’t be be rude or selfish expecting them to
make you feel comfortable.