No One Wants to Talk about Death and Funerals…Bulls**t!
It’s true; death has always been a taboo topic. I remember 8 years ago when I first started working in the funeral profession I would bring up the topic of death and funerals and most family members would become very uncomfortable and remove themselves from the conversation.
Fast-forward to now and the conversations about death and funerals are no longer initiated by myself, but by those family members who used to be uncomfortable.
In Alan Creedy’s article “Funerals as a Counter Culture” last week he made the following statement:
“I believe the public wants to talk. They will find an outlet. If not you then who?”
Alan is right on. Funerals and death are becoming mainstream topics. People are talking, your client families are talking, and they are the ones controlling the conversation around YOUR area of expertise.
I know many of you get turned off when I talk about social media, but the problem is those of you who get turned off are also the ones who think consumers are not talking about death and funerals, when the truth is death and funerals are becoming more and more mainstream. And the outlet most people are using is Facebook.
I have provided below a number of examples that back up the statement, “No one is talking about death and funerals, is absolutely bulls**t”. The examples include mainstream outlets as well as social media.
Working full time for myself comes with a lot of extra privileges; like getting to watch morning cartoons with my daughters before heading to the office. This morning was like most, my four-year woke up early (shortly after me) and she came downstairs to my desk and asked for breakfast and for me to turn on a “kid show”.
I’m not sure the name of the cartoon that was on, but it was on Nick Jr around 8:00am. When I turned it on we caught the last 45 seconds of the characters acting out a fake funeral for one of their doll babies. I’m not sure how the funeral service was portrayed but the fact that death was being discussed in a cartoon directed at 3 – 6 year olds was a huge eye opener that this topic is no longer taboo.
As I am writing this I am sitting in a hotel room in Erie, Pennsylvania preparing for a social media keynote I am giving tomorrow morning (actually right now if you are reading this Tuesday morning) and watching the “Bachelorette” because there is no basketball game on. As I am writing I notice the show on in the background and I hear one of the men on the show talking about the love his grandparents had for each other and how much he missed them since there death in 2009. He then pulled out of his wallet an obituary prayer card from the funeral of both his grandmother and grandfather. He said he has carried the prayer cards with him since the day of the funerals in 2009.
I decided to scroll through my Facebook Newsfeed and some profiles of a few friends just to see if there were by chance any posts about funerals (excluding anyone connected to the funeral profession). Here are 2 posts that I found within 2 minutes:
“I passed Bolin Funeral Home tonight. I do believe that the cyclist that was killed was there and they had a showing. There were a ton of motorcycles and a long, long waiting line all the way into the parking lot.”
“I just want to share something with everyone and is a bit hard as I can be guarded when it comes to personal things..
I went to a funeral of a person I went to school with last night. We were not ever really friends just knew of one another. She was the girlfriend of my brother in law’s brother. I totally went to support my family. Well this will sound weird however it was the most uplifting and moving funeral I have ever been to! It was really about embracing life, living it to its fullest and helping others always along the way. I will tell you I thought I was one of the most thankful and appreciative people ever! Lol Boy after last night I sure did find I am SO much more thankful and appreciative of what I do have. A wonderful home life, wonderful family and extended family and a wonderful job and people to work with. Her death was sudden and unexpected. She left such an impression on all who knew her. Bottom line is that it sure makes me want to be a better person and help people beyond my home and work. I do not know how yet but I bet if I just reach out it will happen..”
This was posted in November 2011 by Facebook COO Sheryl Sandburg on her Facebook profile:
“Today my family celebrated the life of my grandmother, Rosalind Einhorn (8/28/1917 – 11/1/2011), and laid her to rest next to her beloved husband of 65 years, Benjamin.
Grandma Roz was a woman to be reckoned with. Grew up in real poverty – scrubbed floors in the boarding house where she lived as a child, pulled out of school in high school by her parents to help support the family and then forced back in by a local teacher, eventually got to community college and graduated from Berkeley. Raised three children, including my Mom, Adele Sandberg, and was the proud grandmother of 7 grandchildren, David Sandberg, Michelle Sandberg, David Einhorn, Heather Einhorn, and Sam Einhorn, and 14 great-grandchildren. Survived breast cancer in her 40s and lived to be 94. Not the typical dotting Jewish grandmother, but a woman who spoke the truth and had the most strength of everyone around her, including the ability to save the family from financial ruin when their business was failing in the 1970s. She was one of the most capable people anyone ever met – a tireless fundraiser for breast cancer detection, an active volunteer in her community, and the person everyone turned to for help in every crisis. In another era, when girls had more opportunity, I can only imagine what else she would have accomplished.
I was born on her birthday and she was the role model I always strive to live up to. Grandma – thank you for your endless love and for the example you set of a life worth living.”
Sheryl talks about the decision to post her Grandmother’s obituary on Facebook and the surprise response she received in the below video;
Alan Creedy addressed this topic again on his blog last week. He points out the Time magazine cover from last week and how the words “HOW TO DIE” captured the attention of millions of people. You can read a portion of this article here: http://connectingdirectors.com/articles/35057-death-goes-mainstream
The statement, “No one is talking about death and funerals”, is absolutely bulls**t!
Please tell me below, do you agree or disagree?
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